Many a parent truly desires the success
of their children in life and wants them to become well known personalities in
whatever profession they venture in but rather than training them for such a
life they are unknowingly draining them out of it by their own way of training the
children.
Factually all parents individually has a
particular profession, either due to their personal flair for the profession or
because the profession is their failed dream or for whatever reason, that they desire
their children should choose as a life career, but while only a very few parents
have the understanding that each child is created particularly to be something
else different from what another person is created to be, a larger percent of
parents, especially the educated ones passionately pursue, putting together all
efforts, to see their children as professionals in those particular fields they
desired.
There have been avalanche cases of such
parents who threatened their children with disowning when the children resisted
or disagreed with their opinions and some just stopped sponsoring such children’s
school fees.
Such parents, as those described above,
are narcissists whose unaware underpinning desire in their child becoming
whatever they desire is either to see themselves in the child’s reflection as
he or she poses as a professional in that field or to just have the child
fulfills whatever will make them happy without considering the happiness and
fulfillment of the child’s life purposes. A true parent seeks their happiness
through the happiness of their children, not in isolation of their children’s.
SO WHAT SHOULD YOU TRAIN YOUR CHILD TO
BE?
First, as a parent, you need to
understand that what your child will be in life may not actually make you happy,
but will definitely makes God happy if He orders it. However, as a parent who
has understanding, your happiness should be that you helped them succeed in
what they are programmed to be in life.
No, I am not saying you shouldn’t help
your child make decision about their career, but it should be a mutual
agreement between you and them, and that mutual agreement should only be in
cases where they don’t know what to pursue as a career in life. In the case where
they have their own option, yours is to ensure that first, they are not
following someone else steps; second, they have core elements required for it;
third, they have been exhibiting it in one way or the other; and fourth, they
always work around anything that wants to prevent them from doing it. If all or
three of these applied, I assure you that such a child is in his/her right
sense and knows what he/she wants. And yours is to become their partner and
work with them on how best things will work out fine.
The best profession you can train your
child to be is what he or she is created to be. It is what they are programmed
to be. It is what their elements (body chemistry) are most bubble to do. Though
there are some practices that a child may be demonstrating and which are only
the result of their environments, genetic disorder, psychological problem, parental
influence and spiritual manipulation, such practices will be known if first, it
has a ‘true’ negative effect on their personalities; second, it affects their
health badly; third, it is not intentional demonstration; fourth, it is morally
declined, and fifth, they don’t really like it themselves and can’t really
explain it. In such cases, professional’s help in the related field should be
sought.
But if the practices do not have any of
the above described detrimental effects on them, just go aside and give them
the necessary and needful supports to realise their purpose in life. Even if
the required training does not require that they go to school, as you
understand school, don’t worry, where they are going to undergo the training is
their own school. A school is a place where one goes to acquire knowledge and
develop skills that will enable them solve problems in their society.
However, if the training of child will
not require him/her go to a formal school, do ensure you help them develop
adequate communication skill – written and spoken. It is the skill they will
use to tell the world what they are purposed to do and use to address the world
when celebrating their fulfillment, happiness and success.
Also read HOW TO HELP BUILD THE GENIUS IN YOUR CHILD along with HOW TO HAVE YOUR INTELLIGENT QUOTIENT INCREASED. Go back Home.
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