Factually all human beings without
abnormality at birth are genius, but 99% are dis-geniused in the course of their growth and development by both
external and internal factors which could have easily been avoided were the
people around them aware of the potential in them. Now, you have the
opportunity to raise the ones God has put in your care. Don't commit murder by
killing the 'god-in-us' in your child. Consider the following, if you want to
help your child grow his/her genius:
·
Don't often
dictate or tell them what to do: As a parent, it is enough for you to
understand that your child is not a moron and that he or she is not created as
you are; their IQ may be higher than yours and well defined than yours, but if
you often dictate and tell them what to do, they will soon become well refined
fools as their directors. Childhood stage is a stage of creative exploit. It is
a stage of establishing one's own niche in life. And you would do well, as a
parent, if you only take time to study the niche your child is creating, and
guide and discipline them along the line, rather than telling them what and what
not to do.
·
Do appreciate
their efforts:
Children love to make their family happy, and always want to do something as
far as their abilities could take them to achieve the result. But if after they
have done their best and wouldn't get the best welcoming, the idea they poured
into such processes is heading to the grave. Why? It is because the result of
the idea didn't achieve the expected end. Whatever they do, whatever they say,
first appreciate their efforts, before showing your disagreement. This kind of
attitude will encourage them to act to reach your standard as they are putting
their genius to test.
·
Allow them to
try new things:
Some parents desire the best for their child, but want the child to follow
status quo. After spending a lot of money on their children education, some
parents become dismayed when the education begins to manifest in the life of
that child in a way that is foreign to them (parents). As a parent, you should
understand that education is meant to open your eyes and reasoning to new
things. If your reasoning still stands on status quo after being to a school,
you have not had a quality education. When education takes effect, new things,
good strange thinking, new ideas and innovations, resulted. When your child is
walking new morally good ways, don't stop them, instead support and advise
them.
·
Don't often
point to them their weaknesses: Most parents often do this: pointing
the attention of their child on his or her weaknesses thinking they are
protecting the child. But the truth is pointing one's attention on their
weaknesses is like putting bomb in front of them. So whenever they face a
little challenge, they are quickly discouraged because their mind, which is
their will power-house, is on the wrong aspect of their beings. Therefore, when
failing, never point to your child his or her weaknesses; instead join them to
work on how to overcome that weak points by encouraging them with positive
reinforcement.
·
Do acknowledge
their decisions:
Never disparage the ability of your little children in making their own
decisions; don't call them naïve because of their age or for anything else.
Don't wave away their opinions; instead see to it from their own view first
before deciding anything else. Sometimes, decision and opinion of your child
can be more reasonable than yours. So give them chances to see the result of
their decisions. If good, they will be happy, and if the otherwise, they will
be wise. Don't build a child that won't be able to make right good decision as
a teenager before the age they will be moving away from your watching eyes.
Train them to make right decisions independently.
·
Don't let them
know how fearful you can be: Some children refuse to let their genius manifest,
not because of their own weaknesses or personal problem, but because of their
fearful parents who they wouldn't want to see sad if anything should happen to
them. It is good for a parent to care about wellness of their children, but not
to the extent of letting your own fear create fear in your child.
·
Do not compare
your child with any other: It is not the best to be pointing to your child
another child who has probably done well in a particular activity in which your
child didn’t do well as the best: you are killing yours already. Ability,
capability, capacity and skill are not the same with people. You can’t ask fish
to swim on the ground, neither can you ask a rat to run in the ocean and hope
to see wonder. Individual differences can’t be changed. If you want to motivate
a child talk to him on a neutral ground. And make sure you discover the place
of your child in terms of capacity and ability and talents.
Moreover, here also are some important
topics you should often discuss with your children as they are growing up:
godliness, contentment, diligence, money, how to handle success and fame,
society, laziness, etc. You don't have to wait till reasons for such purposes
begin to show up. “Train a child in the
way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.” Invariably,
this admonishment from the Scripture is saying that whichever way, whichever
training, and discipline – good or bad – you imbibe in your child will remain
within him or her forever.
Therefore, be conscious about the kind
of seeds of character and attitude that you plant in your child. Let discipline
be moderate; show love and caring; scold them for the wrong done; appreciate
them for the good done; don't promise them without fulfilling your promises;
don't curse them; don't give them everything they ask of you; pray for them
always; don't repeat after reprimanded them for the wrong done; support and
encourage them. And god will help you to build them up successfully; amen!
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